An example of a timetable

Routines

Hi all I thought I would put up a quick blog about our recent theme ‘routines’. As we have mentioned in our video clips our views of keeping some form of a routine to enable a structure and also to enable self-care for all. We feel from experience having a routine enables everyone to know what is happening to give some structure and boundaries to the day. Remember this is not stuck in stone and needs to be adaptable and flexible. Depending on the young ones this is something that can be discussed and negotiated together. I have attached a timetable as a template. I have also found a chore timetable which I will be negotiating and using with my two older boys. Let’s begin the summer holiday with some form of structure and routine so that we can enjoy those ‘down’ days. Remember keep the afternoon free for fun activities; a walk in the woods; painting theme or even some baking. Happy holidays.

Routines

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Celebrating our endings

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Look at what you have achieved no matter how small it may be or how big, Then use the same image to look at what does the new journey need

Endings vs Beginnings

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Social Distancing vs Physical Distancing

Social Distancing

Hi all

In our first posting I mention about Social Distancing and I said I would explore this further.

So, before I begin, I want you to just for a few seconds think about the word Social what does it mean to you; what words jump out to explore and express ‘Social’

Here are my findings;

If you are social, you like to be around people. A social butterfly is someone who is social or friendly with everyone, flitting from person to person, the way a butterfly might. The word social comes from the Latin socius meaning "friend." When you're being social, you're everyone's friend. www.vocabulary.com

The definition of social is someone or something that enjoys being with others or has to do with people living or gathering in groups. An example of social is children laughing and playing together.

Etymology. The word "Social" derives from the Latin word socii ("allies"). It is particularly derived from the Italian Socii states, historical allies of the Roman Republic (although they rebelled against Rome in the Social War of 91-88 BC). Interacting with others boosts feelings of well-being and decreases feelings of depression. Research has shown that one sure way of improving your mood is to work on building social connections. You may even lower your risk of dementia. 30 Jun 2016 www.psychologytoday.com

Social is about interaction whether that be with the use of talking face to face with a ‘Safe Physical Distance’, or via the social media tools.

Young people may use their gaming to socially engage with their peers/friends. They may use Instagram too.

Some may choose to use WhatsApp tools, Facebook and so on.

I have used the lockdown opportunity to communicate with old friends with writing letters or sending cards.

I have also noticed how lockdown has enabled families and friends to keep in touch via zoom or house party where everyone is able to interact, play games, laugh , shed some happy and sad tears and just engage through their facial features; to be in touch emotionally and mentally. But not in touch physically due to the 2m/1m rule.

So let me use this point to explore what does the government mean by the ‘social distance’ – is this an appropriate term to use when we are socially interacting and what messages does it give to our young people who feel they need to keep their social distance; what impact does this term have on the well-being of our community.

I wonder why this was not explored before naming it ‘social distancing’ and perhaps the term ‘physical distancing’ may have been appropriate. After all we are all socially engaged but physically at a distance. Another term I feel that would be appropriate and especially for our young people is ‘safe distancing’ as the implications of ‘social distancing’ is about keeping safe.

This is my food for thought and perhaps something to explore as I am slowly trying to change the terms in school to ‘safe distancing’.

Have a great weekend, keep your safe distance and enjoy the social interaction.

Looking After Yourself

This week's theme

Boundaries and Consistency

Good afternoon, 😀

As I sit in A and E with my son, I wonder what some of the forefront issues may be given the current climate.

What we hear from parents seems to be to take back some control, to alleviate the anxieties and an acceptable climate at home. It seems there is a lack of consistency unconsciously.

We are all trying to manage the new way of working both adults and young people. And what happens is being zoomed out by on- line meetings we may become slightly relaxed by previous boundaries we had in place.

An example, my two young boys who are only allowed an hour of gadget time on Friday evening, Saturday and Sunday.

Suddenly not meeting friends face to face due to school closure and here I am going to use the term physical distancing rather than social distancing; (I will explore this in my next blog). They are needing that social connection; social interaction.

And so, we had to re-negotiate the rules to an hour every day. Yes, I can see that smile thinking really just an hour and yes you are right. How easily the hour slips into nearly two hours. Then it's like, hang on what went on here, what happened to the boundaries and consistency.

So, after a few melt downs both ways. It was time to go back to the drawing table (physically the dinning table with paper and pens) but with the young people and renegotiate the boundaries. This way they felt empowered by being heard, able to communicate their needs but also be aware of our roles as parents to keep them safe through having clear boundaries and consistency. We now have a new timetable, an hour gadget time on Mondays, Wednesdays, Fridays and the weekend. Tuesday and Thursdays are looking at hobbies, perhaps engaging in their music practice, bike rides or just a gentle family walk; time to connect.

I end with a quote

“Boundaries are a part of self-care. They are healthy, normal, and necessary.” -Doreen Virtue.